There.s something sick in my gut about this. 12 yrs differ between you and she. thats like you making demands in one months time to an 11 yr old. Puke and run. What's wrong with her that men of her age grp are not interested in her? don't buy the line of shiv 'They don't understand me, but your so. . . ' it's all lies! she have you, hold you, abuse you and more. then when she tosses you like a snought on rag, you'll never have an appropriate relations with thoses of your own age. Go with the younger and learn life together.

@polarbear71484: sweetie, that's a disaster just waiting to happen. The older of the two is just looking for a "pet project" not true love. The younger one deserves to find who they are on their own not be mold into what someone else wants them to be.

See the 20 year old she is needy and i really dont like that but she has potential but the 35 year old is kind and sweet but is very career driven and goal ortientied maybe even to a fault

Right there...you said it urself...you know already that both of them are not the right women for you! You answered your own Q !!!

But there are things that i really like them both but i have to pick before i get in to deep with both you know lmao what to do what to do

@polarbear71484: well, I guess majority has spoken. In my opinion, guys who are not mature are attracted to older women and decent guys would pick a decent age group. Not judging you but its your life, you pick what guy you want to be. Good luck:-)

OP, have you realized that those women aren't an " object " to be chosen in the first place ?

It seems that you are somewhat attracted to the 35 lady but age becomes a factor for you . If you will build a relationship with her, how mature you are to handle such relationship with a huge age gap? Will you not be insecure knowing she is successful ( assuming morethan you )! & wouldn't it be an advantage for you knowing she is career driven ?

I don't think , she is really mature in handling relationship since why would she set a time for getting married ? Sounds controlling ..

maybe I spoke too soon. your playing them? So i'm to assume that your playing us on this thread too. " I have to pick soon . . before I get in too deep with Both. . lmao. . what to do. . what to do" starting to sound fishy to me.

@twoinchheels idk how this is fishy i am asking for help (spelling mistakes are from my phones auto-word sorry) and advice thats it i dont see how thats wrong, @rainbowbutterfly there is an age gap but you see i have dateed younger and older women before my last 5 exs ages were (i think lol) 20,25,19,20,28