look people, why are you soooo stressed about finding a woman in a flash on here? i mean take a breath, dam. i see posts about how lonely or horny you are. are you seriously THAT desperate? especially the younger guys. your grasping for attention is really offputting to the women here. yes it is a dating site, but you think your "im so lonely" routine is going to guilt trip a woman into dating you. well it woooont! the women that i speak to know full well that my expectations are to make friends, chat, crack jokes, have fun, and MAYBE find a relationship. i could be on here for years and not find a mate, but ill definitly have friends. wanna know why? because im not begging for a date! im not begging to get laid! my profile pic is a good and tasteful shot of me....and guess what..... im clothed and smiling! i dont message ANYONE unless ive asked AND theyve given me permission. if they say no then OH WELL! i wont cry and whine and threaten to run away like a scorned puppy with its tail tucked under. (ie. delete my account.) you think thatll get you some play? its a child throwing a tantrum because hes not getting his way. and to those of you that wanna threaten to leave.... fine, go. dont let the door hitcha. if you are so desperate to get laid, buy a ******. if you treat these women like theyre just sex toys then you need to grow up. even grown men act like this! you have nothing but time in life, maybe slowing down and TAKING your time may render you better results. or you can continue to troll the site for for sex and beg and whine for someone to date you because youre so lonely, and get nowhere. posting about how ugly you are or asking to be rated for your looks? how superficial do you need to be? and to some of you ladies..... you want to judge a man by the way he looks and his build? thats one of my BIGGEST pet peaves, very superficial, and very hurtful. i dont care what you think of me. i dont care if you dont like my looks or build. if youre so hung up on looks, go back to the 10th grade and be a chid.

Holy crap u said whats on all our minds thanx ya

Totally agree!! So many young imature 1 track minded guys on here its discusting

Will someone please just hug me and tell me how important I am?

I have learned from past experience that dating is not a stock car race where one can go as fast as they choose to, relationships take time to grow.

:) Perfectly said.

It's not just guys. I've had girls contact me wanting to just meet up for sex or use me for money, a place to stay, etc........... They found out real quick that I wasn't up for that.

Yes,it is good advice-but to those who need it must first dislodge their heads from their rectal cavities before being able to read it!

@JtWhite: Lol. Good luck on that. I don't even want to think about what one guy asked me to "Babysit" cause of it being my job.