What good is the dump button for if the people ur dumping can still see ur threads n comment on em...I feel like if u dump someone they should not be able to see ur profile, ur comments or any thread u start, much less be able to comment on it..that option needs to be like when u block someone on Facebook, they can't see u or anything u say...that really needs to be changed..just my opinion tho

Yep this has been suggested many many times! I think the dump button should block that person from seeing u not block u from seeing them. Totally agree Chris

Same here

I agree too...ive had serious stalkers from here and that option would completely control that!! :)

Folks, the difference between Facebook and a dating site is in their purpose, which is why they cannot be compared. The whole purpose of Facebook is to limit the exposure of your private information to just your close family and friends, whereas on a dating site, it is the exact opposite, to maximize your exposure to total strangers.

That's why what you guys are suggesting would have absolutely no effect on a "dumped" user because they would still be able to view your profile and your forum posts by simply logging off the site and viewing them as a logged-off user, since both your profiles and your forum posts are public.

Furthermore, since this is a dating site, the point is to minimize any kind of negative energy as much as possible, so being advised that you've been dumped, or being forcibly blocked from reading someone's profile, or following a thread that has holes in it and you don't know why, is -- in my opinion -- too aggressive for a dating site, and will breed negativity. Plus, trying to stop a cyberstalker usually tends to have the exact opposite effect, and makes them want to pursue you more as you've just made the chase more challenging and thrilling.

So when I originally came up with the Dump feature, I focused on making sure it only affected the experience of the person doing the Dumping, and not the experience of anyone else, because when you start giving users the single-handed power to affect another user's experience, things can start going downhill pretty quickly.

You can probably see it coming by now, but I'm afraid I don't really agree with this suggestion. That said, if there is enough interest, I'll obviously consider it, as always. However, there will need to be a lot of interest for me to completely change the way it works, not just due to the amount of changes that would be required in the backend of the site, but also the potential negative implications of such a change.

Hmmmm I see the point in Andres's post....

I see ur point, but if they're stalking u and u don't really want anything to do with that person the dump button has no use...plus if they're still able to pm u and commenting on threads you've started what good is it...I dump someone and I can't see what they say but they can still see what I say...if im dumping someone im not really interested in what they're saying so I wouldn't be looking anyway.. I think there's a way to rework it to where everyone is satisfied...u don't have to block our profiles but at least make it where they can't see what u post or comment on a thread started by u...other than that Andres I love the site...keep up the good work

The purpose of the Dump button is to tell the system "I'm not interested in this person, please don't show me them ever again". Since you'll never see them again -- on the site or in the Forums -- you won't have anything to do with them anywhere, so I think it has a very important use.

They can still PM you, but you won't ever see their PM. They can still post in your threads, but you won't see what they posted. What you don't see can't hurt you, so it shouldn't matter.

But why does it matter if they can still see your profile or forum posts? Unless you're publicly posting your phone number or contact details, they won't be able to do anything with any information you post, since they won't be able to contact you in any way.

Exactly, that's why we completely remove them from your experience.

Like I mentioned in my previous post, not allowing them to see your profile or what you posted won't change anything because they can just log-off and see them anyway. For your suggestion to be effective, we would have to no longer make user profiles and forum posts public, and I think that will do more harm than good since this is a dating site and people are trying to get noticed.