i agree with sing

This kind of decision is one I don't like to think about... :( It's scary and serious. I would hate to have to pull the plug on someone I loved but even more I would hate to see them suffer. God willing, I hope I never have to face either of those things.

@Acire73: I dont understand Erica? Don't the guardians get to choose living will and dnr? they do here...if arguement or objection from other family then judge decides...have had to testify a time or two in such hearings...and as my dads guardian dnr and living will r my responsibilty to file....

I agree 2 they should be put 2 rest but I know its a hard decision when its a love 1 my mum had 2 do it 2 her mum and then 2 her husband 2 years later. I know in my heart my mum never got over it and she never had another relationship either she stayed as a widow. But now she has found me with another lady who had 2 do it. She had no one 2 talk about and how hard it must have been 4 her and what would have been going through her head all those years but me and my sister love her very much and even now she is closer in our lives but I could never put my mum in a home and leave her 2 die. She brought me into the world so I would find it would be my responsibility 2 look after when the time comes. I know I would have full support from friends and family though.

@JLaDawn: unfortunately alot of the guardians will not sign dnr. I hate to say but much of it is for financial gain. Maybe 4 out of the 33 clients i work with have involved guardians. The 5 with dnr are wards of the state.

i have seen what ur talking abt with financial gain....it truly is part of why i got out of the field..too much when i was going through it personally as well a professionally. Just the title of this thread brings tears to my eyes... I have had to make the decision for dnr more than once, it is an almost unbearable weight. I can only carry it becuz I know the agony signing it saved my loved ones. The decision is so much harder on those of us left behind.

I wld like to take this oppurtunity to ask, no beg, each and everyone of u to make sure u discuss this issue and PUT UR WISHES IN A LEGAL FORM! Leaving ur loved ones with the responsibility cant always be helped, but you can make it easier for them if you have frank and open communication on this issue before such a tragic circumstance happens.

@JLaDawn: yep always best to have a living will ready and signed. Saves loved ones from guessing what to do and tells what u want. i review mine yearly.