@Andres: thank you im glad it is resolved but now I dont want to go if anything I might be good for guidence with others here. I think I will remain a non paid member for a while . My love will understand and she would want me to help others she is a very giving woman and she wants to see others find happiness as much as I do .

I can perfectly understand both you not wanting to pay a subscription for a Dating site that has already helped you find someone, while at the same time not wanting to leave all the friends you've made on the site. I see you've set your profile to "Not Single -> Not Looking" so you've already made it clear to everyone that you're off the market. Enjoy your friendships here and all the best with your new relationship!