Thread: How Do You Deal With Racial Tension While Out On A Date?

How Do You Deal With Racial Tension While Out On A Date? (by JustMeAndYou77)

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April666
5-Nov-12 1:31 am

Their shouldnt be tension. I didnt vote, because I disagree w/ mixing aces. A cardinal dont make babies w/ a blue bird kinda thing. But please dont think I am judging.. either way, coming from the other view.. it shouldnt be anyones concern weather your black w/ a white. So there shouldnt even be tension. If I were you id laugh it off & do something to p*ss the haters off

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polarbear71484 (3)

(35 / M-F / Virginia)
6-Nov-12 2:03 pm

Honestly my family is a salad bowl lol i have chinese cousins, white nephews and mexican cousins and native american and indian uncles but what just dont understand why some girls just feel uncomfortable talking with (conversation) and dating i just dont understand and also whats this thing going around that "my mom or dad will kill me if i ever talked to a black guy" you are a grown woman get the **** out of here #stopthemadness

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JustMeAndYou77 (17)

(47 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 2:16 pm

Quoted Post:

Honestly my family is a salad bowl lol i have chinese cousins, white nephews and mexican cousins and native american and indian uncles but what just dont understand why some girls just feel uncomfortable talking with (conversation) and dating i just dont understand and also whats this thing going around that "my mom or dad will kill me if i ever talked to a black guy" you are a grown woman get the **** out of here #stopthemadness

And, I thank you very much for bringing up this point because I have heard this from both sides and ug lol Indeed family and I guess money matters but I do hear the lame excuses a lot. I agree, it's all about maturity. No one has Koodies. We also make decisions based on what we want or need.

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JustMeAndYou77 (17)

(47 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 2:21 pm

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Wow, very nice Rainbowbutterfly. Yes, when you're the target of the racial tension it's hard not to feel isolated and alone even when your partner, and in your case, your husband was right there with you. He was excellent in observing the affect it was having on you though and was able to handle it quickly and perfectly. Although the date smoothed over and went well-yay- were you still uncomfortable eating at that restaurant or did your worries completely mellow out?

When I was in his country , There were many times that I was very uncomfortable ( I was very naive at that time ) and not so sociable so i didnt like the idea of dine out but with him besides me and assuring me everything would be perfectly fine then gradually , I adjusted myself .

It's important that your partner makes you comfortable especially in a place where you consider " new"..

I totally agree! And, I think it is securing to the relationship.

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PaulG7719
6-Nov-12 2:21 pm

@JustMeAndYou77: i have absolutely no problem dating or even marrying an ethnic woman. black, indian, martian...... its just skin. ill make whoever im with happy and satisfied.

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JustMeAndYou77 (17)

(47 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 , Just Now

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@JustMeAndYou77: i have absolutely no problem dating or even marrying an ethnic woman. black, indian, martian...... its just skin. ill make whoever im with happy and satisfied.

awwwwe Paul. Yes, you are a rainbow kinda man but you're wrong for the martian though. She'll zap your a** with a lazer beam lol Every woman is a gorgeous one to you and that's not only respectable as ladies tend to feel insecure about themselves in every group but that's also appreciated as well. A woman sometimes just wanna be...a woman.

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PaulG7719
6-Nov-12 3:29 pm

@JustMeAndYou77: what matters to me most is making my woman happy. i do really love women no matter who they are, (except brittany spears). i love to talk to them, laugh with them, listen to them, and satisfy them in every way possible. i am a romantic at heart.

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JustMeAndYou77 (17)

(47 / F-M / Florida)
6-Nov-12 5:57 pm

lool at Britney Spears.... I love that song Toxic!! Ewwweeewwwweee dunnna duna dun lol

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